‘i want to leave but she lures me back with whipped cream and melted butter’

JUST JANE: TODAY OUR AGONY AUNT JANE O'GORMAN IS DEALING WITH A NEW ISSUE FROM A DAILY STAR READER WHO IS POWERLESS TO RESIST HIS MINXY LOVER 07:39, 04 Jun 2025Updated 07:39, 04 Jun

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Please note that Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published. SHE BREAKS ME DOWN WITH RUDE FOOD How do I get my girlfriend to leave my house? I no

longer love her. I want to be free to sleep with other women, but she refuses to clear out. Every time I ask her to look for somewhere new, she breaks my resolve. I come home from work and

she’s waiting for me, naked, on the stairs. She invites me to ravish her; she tells me she’s hot and has been fantasising about me all day and I can’t resist. I dive right in. I’m a

hot-blooded male. What can I say? If a woman offers me sex, then I’m going to take it. But then I hate myself afterwards. Article continues below Recently she was sent on a two-day course

for her job. I bought boxes from the local storage company and packed every single item of hers in bubble wrap. I wrote her an email telling her what I’d done and stacked everything up in

the hall for her remove. I went to work, but when I came back everything was back in its original space. All her clothes were in the wardrobe and her toothbrush was in the bathroom. She was

wearing a black, lacy set and high heels. She was smiling sweetly but didn’t say a word. Instead, she sat me down and hand-fed me slippery oysters and asparagus dripping with melted butter.

It was quite surreal in a Stepford Wives kind of way… We ended up writhing around on the kitchen floor in a mess of whipped cream, squashy strawberries and chocolate sauce. Yet again, she

wore me down with cheeky sex. We’ve been together for over two years. How do I achieve a final split? This is tough when it feels as though she’s always one step ahead of me. _JANE SAYS: I

GET THE IMPRESSION THAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS VERY COMFORTABLE IN YOUR PROPERTY. MOVING HOME IS ONE OF THE MOST STRESSFUL THINGS ANY OF US CAN DO IN LIFE. IF SHE’S FOUND A SAFE, COMFORTABLE

(CHEAP?) HOME WITH YOU, THEN I’M NOT SURPRISED THAT SHE’S IN NO HURRY TO MOVE OUT._ _EITHER SHE’S GOT THE SKIN OF A RHINO AND HAS DECIDED TO FRONT THIS OUT WITH BIG DISPLAYS OF PASSION OR

SHE’S GENUINELY TERRIFIED ABOUT WHERE SHE’S GOING TO LIVE NEXT AND IS DOING EVERYTHING IN HER POWER TO PLEASE AND APPEASE YOU. VOW TO TREAT HER WITH CIVILITY AND RESPECT. PICK THE RIGHT

MOMENT AND MAKE IT CLEAR THAT, REGRETTABLY, THIS RELATIONSHIP HAS RUN ITS COURSE, AND YOU NEED HER TO LEAVE. I’M NOT PRETENDING THAT THIS IS GOING TO BE EASY, BUT IT’S GOT TO BE DONE. WORK

OUT HOW YOU CAN HELP HER TO FIND SOMEWHERE NEW. DO YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO IS RENTING OUT A ROOM OR FLAT THAT SHE COULD CONTACT?_ _GIVE HER A REASONABLE, SPECIFIC MOVING OUT DATE THAT ALLOWS HER

TIME TO GATHER HER BELONGS AND MAKE A NEW START. SADLY, IF SHE REALLY WON’T GO AND YOU BEGIN TO FEEL THAT SHE IS DIGGING IN FOR THE DURATION, THEN YOU NEED TO SPEAK TO A SOLICITOR ABOUT

YOUR RIGHTS. IT MIGHT BE THAT SHE’LL SAY SHE’S CONTRIBUTED TO THE UPKEEP OF YOUR FLAT AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN GENERAL AND IS ENTITLED TO FINANCIAL COMPENSATION. YOU MIGHT NEED TO BE

PREPARED TO GIVE HER MONEY TO GO._ _GET PROFESSIONAL LEGAL ADVICE AND FAMILY SUPPORT._ HOW DARE HE MUSCLE IN? I’m sick of another man trying it on with my wife. My wife’s boss regularly

invites us round to her swanky house for drinks. Unfortunately, her slimy husband fancies himself as a stud. The boss totally ignores his foul mouth and comments, but I don’t find it

remotely funny when he tells my wife how much he fancies her and what he’d like to do to her in bed. The other day he was banging on about ravishing her on a desert island. Things aren’t

helped by my wife finding him ‘hilariously funny’ and playing along. She says I’m a fusspot who can’t spot a joker. Am I? _JANE SAYS: EXPLAIN TO YOUR WIFE THAT YOU CAN’T GO ON WITH THINGS

THE WAY THEY ARE. POINT OUT THAT HER BOSS’S HUSBAND OVERSTEPS THE MARK EVERY TIME HE COMES UP WITH ANOTHER STUPID COMMENT – AND IT’S GETTING ON YOUR NERVES. YOU’RE NOT BEING OVERLY

SENSITIVE, BUT TOO OFTEN YOU’VE HAD TO SIT AND WATCH HIM BEHAVE LIKE A SEXED-UP ASS AND YOU DON’T LIKE IT._ _NO, YOU’RE NOT PERFECT, BUT YOU WOULDN’T ACT THIS WAY WITH his WIFE.

UNDERSTANDABLY YOUR WIFE IS DESPERATE NOT TO UPSET HER BOSS. SHOULD YOU START BEING LESS AVAILABLE FOR DRINKS AT THEIR PLACE? BE READY WITH REASONS/EXCUSES. YOU MUST TRUST YOUR JUDGEMENT

REGARDING THIS BLOKE WHO SOUNDS LIKE AN OPPORTUNIST JERK TO ME._ My girl goes out drinking at least four nights a week. She reels in drunk after 11pm and expects me to be waiting up for her.

She likes to chat about her day and fill me in with all the gossip. She goes ape if I go up to bed early, alone. Booze makes her horny and she always expects sex no matter how tired I am or

what time I’m due in work the next day. The problem is that I don’t get anything out of drunken sex when I’m stone-cold sober and I’m sick of being barked at and told I’m boring. What’s to

be done? _JANE SAYS: THE FACT THAT YOUR GIRL GOES OUT DRINKING FOUR NIGHTS A WEEK SUGGESTS THAT SHE HAS A SERIOUS PROBLEM WITH ALCOHOL. IS THIS SOMETHING SHE’S WILLING TO ADMIT TO OR SEEK

TREATMENT FOR? IF IT’S NOT, THEN WHY DO YOU STAY WITH HER? SEX WITH A DRUNK IS NO FUN AND NO GOOD FOR YOUR SELF-WORTH. IF THAT SEX ALSO VERGES ON THE BULLYING, THEN SOMETHING SIGNIFICANT

NEEDS TO CHANGE. TELL HER TODAY THAT YOU REFUSE TO GO ON LIKE THIS. INSIST THAT YOU AND SHE SPEND MORE (SOBER) TIME TOGETHER. SHE NEEDS TO START DISPLAYING MORE CARE AND RESPECT._ NOTHING I

DO IS RIGHT How do I get my daughter to stop shouting at me and telling me off? Nothing I do (in her mind) is right. I walk her dog, and she accuses me of not being vigilant enough because I

allow him to sniff other breeds. Article continues below I wash up her dishes ‘all wrong’ and over water the plants when I house sit. She frequently has me in tears. _JANE SAYS: YOUR

DAUGHTER SOUNDS LIKE AN ENTITLED LITTLE MADAM. PRESUMABLY YOU’RE WALKING HER DOG AND HOUSE SITTING FOR FREE. YOU’RE KEEPING HER PET WALKED AND HER HOME SAFE, YET ALL SHE DOES IS CRITICISE.

INSIST ON A FRESH SET OF HOUSE RULES. POINT OUT THAT SHE NEEDS TO START SHOWING RESPECT AND GRATITUDE. IF YOUR ‘SERVICES’ AREN’T GOOD ENOUGH, PERHAPS SHE SHOULD PAY SOMEONE ELSE?_