Support for grandparents as parents – raising grandchildren, kinship –...

En español | Raising grandchildren can be a tremendous challenge. Grandparent caregivers need to develop a support system to help them with the many tasks at hand. It's also important

for grandparents to take good care of themselves so they can stay mentally and physically healthy enough to do the job. SEE ALSO: GRANDFAMILIES RESOURCES. One way to make the task easier is

to connect with other grandparents in the same situation. There are many grandparent support groups located all over the country. Find one in your area by searching our Grandparent Support

Locator or your state’s GrandFacts fact sheet at www.grandfactsheets.org. GRANDFAMILIES GUIDE * Getting Started * Support * Legal Issues * Finances * Work * Housing and Safety * Health *

Education and Child Care * Family Challenges Many relative caregivers connect with others with others via the internet in online groups, such as our Raising Grandchildren group at

www.aarp.org/online-community. If you are unable to find a group in your area, you might consider starting one yourself. Ask a local agency to sponsor your support group and help you find

community resources and speakers. Try your Area Agency on Aging, child welfare office, county extension service, faith-based organization or other human services agency for help getting a

group started. In the meantime, here are answers to your questions about finding support: HOW CAN I GET OTHER PEOPLE TO HELP ME OUT? As you take on the task of caring for grandchildren, your

friends and family will probably want to help. But they may not be sure of what they can do. It's up to you to: * Ask for help. Make a list of small and large ways family and friends

can support you. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. It shows that you are going to do your best in raising your grandchild and you know what it will take to get that done.

* Have a family conference or meeting of close and extended family members. Discuss how your life, your grandchild's life and other family members' lives will change. * Try to

divide up tasks and responsibilities for other areas of your life, such as caring for older parents, so you can have the time and energy for raising children again. A small amount of

planning can save you some big headaches later. * Talk with your friends about how your social life will change. Let them know you'd still like to see them, but you might need help with

babysitting. HOW DO I FIND SUPPORT SERVICES IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD? You probably will be able to find services and support for you and/or your grandchildren in your community. Start by checking

out these resources: * Schools. Talk to the social worker at your grandchild's school about what kind of help might be available * Children's Services, Children and Families or

Child Welfare Office. Call your town or county government offices to find out what kind of help you may be eligible for * Faith-based organizations (religious organizations often have

programs to help families even if they are not members of their faith) * Community Centers * YMCA and YWCA * County Extension Offices * Boys and Girls Clubs, Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, and

other youth groups * Mentoring programs, like Big Brothers and Big Sisters * Local colleges and universities (for example, they may have free legal clinics in their law schools, or might

have student who can work with your grandchildren) CAN I FIND SOMEONE TO WATCH MY GRANDKIDS? Many communities have programs that will provide care for your grandchild while you do things

like go to a doctor, go shopping, go to court or simply get some much-needed rest. Check with your Area Agency on Aging or child welfare office to find out if there are relative caregiver

respite programs in your state. You should also: * Locate your state's GrandFacts fact sheet at www.grandfactsheets.org to find out what resources are available. * Check out any

"Morning Out" programs or drop-in child-care centers that may be available in your community. * Ask about before- and after-school programs at your grandchild’s school * Line up

babysitters, such as local teenagers or your friends/family * Trade care with other grandparent caregivers — you watch their kids one week and they watch yours the next week * Check out

mentoring programs for your grandchildren, such as the Big Brothers/Big Sisters program, after-school programs and Boys and Girls Clubs. HOW CAN I GET HELP IF I'M FEELING OVERWHELMED?

When you are raising grandchildren, you may feel overcome with emotions. You may feel grief, sadness, and a sense of loss and disappointment that your child wasn't able to raise his/her

children. Or you may feel angry or resentful about having to take on this role. If your feelings are getting in the way of your day-to-day life, it can be helpful to talk to a mental health

professional. Ask friends, family or your doctor for names of a therapist, counselor or social worker who does counseling. Or call your local department of mental health for a referral.

Remember, by taking care of your own mental health needs you will be better able to care for your grandchildren.