Sexy, romantic and adventurous love making ideas for couples - aarp everywher...

Most 50-plus couples are less than adventurous in bed. It's easy to let habits take root and do the same thing each time you make love. But there are no awards for bedroom tedium, so

how about undertaking a sexual makeover? It's sexy but comfortable, innovative but not bizarre. _And_ it makes a great mutual gift for Valentine's Day. Here's a 10-step

program that I designed with sociologist Janet Lever, my coauthor on _Getaway Guide to the Great Sex Weekend,_ to help people think of new ways to be sexually playful, sparking more arousal

and desire in a long-term relationship. (You needn't leave home to put this plan into action, but new locales can be more seductive than old haunts.) 1. BEEF UP THE BOUDOIR If you

don't have one, _add a dimmer switch _to one of your bedroom lights. Part of sexual allure is looking and feeling beautiful; a dimmer achieves both! Or simply _swap out the sheets;_

satin or high-thread-count sheets feel sensual, and they encourage sensual play. Humans are visual creatures who crave novelty; you can adapt those mammalian features to your advantage

merely by _donning sexier nightwear_ than you normally sport. For women, that might mean a silky teddy; for men, cute shorts? Even a new robe that's soft to the touch can pay off; think

about using part of a weekend to shop for these items together. 2. DO A LITTLE DABBING Is smell the sharpest and most immediate of the five senses? Some scientists maintain it is, so do the

scientific thing and make sure you smell fresh and clean. Then, depending on individual preferences, find a scent, one for each of you, that the other really likes. Dab it in all the usual

places — and in a few less so. (Speaking of private preserves, it might be sexy to do a little "manscaping" or its female equivalent, "womaxing," if you never have

before.) 3. INTRODUCE YOUR BABE TO TOYLAND Here's your chance to get sexy in a whole new way. There are a variety of great lubes out there, both water- and silicone-based, and by now

you probably have a favorite. But why not try a new one? Those I can recommend include Continuous Silkiness, Wet, Pur, Eros and Pink. (Indeed, the only thing not to like about lubricants may

be their cheesy names.) Many lubes come in a single-use size, so if you frequent a sex shop — either online or off — you can pick up a few samples without having to purchase an entire

bottle or tube. In the sex-toy category, I hardly know where to start — or stop! But these three models are reported to satisfy consistently. _We-Vibe _is a C-shaped device that goes in and

outside a woman at the same time. As its name implies, it is nondiscriminatory: It vibrates her and him simultaneously. _Revel Body Sonic Vibrator_ is a new round device with a slow to

super-fast thumping action. It is submersible in water and — get this — has a suction action. _The rabbit. _Now widely considered the classic sex toy, this device features a top part that

rotates inside while the "rabbit ears" on the outside hit the clitoral area. Yes, _Sex and the City_ made the rabbit famous (Season 1, Epsiode 9, if you must know), but it was much

beloved long before Charlotte got addicted to it. NOTE: Provided they are safe for the user, Cialis or Viagra can be a special treat. Even when such erection medications are not strictly

required for intromission, they can usually add some density to men over 50 — an effect appreciated by both parties.