Father and daughter connect over crossword puzzles | members only access

Think fast! What’s a five-letter word for “multipurpose utensil”? I drew a blank. My pencil was sharp, my brain not so much. Finally, with the clock ticking down at the 2024 American

Crossword Puzzle Tournament, the answer came to me: SPORK! It came to me because my daughter wrote it into the puzzle we were sharing. Lily Lady, a filmmaker and poet who is smarter than I

am, turned her mom and me into empty nesters when she grew up. Today, we live far apart but often text back and forth about the _New York Times_ crossword, a shared passion that helps us

keep in touch. A quick text—_“Can u believe that clue?”_—can be another way to say “_Hi—I love you_.” Crosswords are good mental exercise. A 2023 study in the _Journal of the American

Medical Association_ found that “brain-challenging activities” like crosswords “are associated with a lower risk of developing dementia among older adults.” Better yet, they’re fun. My

favorite recent _Times_ clue asked solvers to name a “writer’s reference” that’s also what’s missing after “stego,” “bronto,” “allo” and “tyranno.” Answer: THESAURUS. Lily, who is 26, dared

me — I mean “invited” me — to join her for my first ever (gulp) crossword competition. We were part of the inaugural pairs competition at the 46th annual tournament, a festive three-day

event in Stamford, Connecticut with almost a thousand competitors jamming the Marriott for puzzle-themed events leading up to the finals on Sunday. One skinny contestant came dressed as a

pencil. A popular young woman wore a crosshatched crossword halter top, but nobody could match the skin Lily had in the game: a crossword tattoo on her upper thigh. “Anyone who wants to see

it will have to pay,” she said. We schmoozed with Lynn Lempel, a veteran puzzle constructor who designed the first crossword we would all try to solve. “I’ve been offered bribes” for inside

info, she confided, only half joking, “but they weren’t big enough. It’s not a wealthy crowd.” During opening ceremonies, Will Shortz, the legendary _New York Times_ puzzle editor, got a

standing ovation. Shortz, 71, suffered a stroke in February. After two months of rehab, he was back to run the tournament he founded in 1978, rising from a wheelchair to wish us luck.

Dreaming of the tournament’s first prize of $7,500, we convened in a ballroom that smelled of pencil-sharpener shavings and flop sweat. Lily zoomed through most of Lynn Lempel’s

Broadway-themed puzzle, including a female taxi driver (MYFARELADY) and a dishonest monarch (THELYINKING). We coulda been contenders, but I got gridlocked in my corner of the puzzle, which

featured a taxi queue (CABARRAY). I was holding us up, with Lily filling squares while I sat there like a lump, until she reached a Gen Z stumper: perennial presidential candidate Harold. I

knew that one. “Stassen!” She wrote STASSEN and gave me a tactical tip: “You don’t have to shout.”